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thenewwomensmovement:

Patriarchy: ‘He loved women’
Translation: ‘He fucked a lot of women’

Patriarchy: ‘You’re a feminazi/ bitch/ dyke/ delusional woman/ whore/ desperate for a fuck’
Translation: ‘I am threatened by your argument and am scared of you and it’

Patriarchy: ‘Smile, love!’
Translation: ‘Why are you not deferential to my masculinity?’

Patriarchy: ‘I’m not being racist/ sexist/ hetrosexist/ agist, but…’
Translation: ‘I’m about to say something racist/ sexist/ hetrosexist/ agist and I don’t want to be called on it’

Patriarchy: ‘feminists are humourless’
Translation: ‘feminists don’t laugh at my jokes about rape and violence’

Patriarchy: ‘you’re delusional’
Translation: ‘I can’t attack your argument, so I’ll have to attack you’

Patriarchy: ‘if we didn’t have prostitution/ pornography there’d be more rape’
Translation: ‘if we don’t get exactly what we want, you’ll pay for it’

Patriarchy: ‘you’re too emotional’
Translation: ‘this issue only hurts women, so why get upset?’

Patriarchy: ‘it’s natural’
Translation: ‘if I say it enough times, that makes it true!’

(via captainbubblebeard)

“Do you know who think all men are rapists? Rapists do. Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.

If one in twenty guys (or more) is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.

But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another, someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.

Or maybe you didn’t laugh. Maybe it just wasn’t a very funny joke. So maybe you just didn’t say anything at all.

That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.

You. The rapist’s comrade.”